November Poly 101 discussion

Let's make a poly time capsule!

This month, the last Poly 101 before our holiday break (stay tuned for announcement of the December Poly party!) I wanted to tap into our collective creative energies to produce a fun and informative body of Victoria poly wisdom. :)

At Poly 101, we get asked a lot of questions about poly resources or literature, and although there is a small lexicon of poly books, blogs and materials out there, many poly resources are, I find, found within the community its

elf.

Therefore, I propose we put together a Victoria Poly 101 collection of writing, art or other materials that in some way reflects our own personal poly wisdom (even if it's just questions at this point). In other words, I ask you to bring something that you think would be useful or fun to share with the whole community that you wrote, created or otherwise compiled.

If you don't write or craft anything, that's okay too! You can certainly come to listen and share your thoughts, or perhaps bring an excerpt of some poly writing you found online or in a book that really moves you, and read it aloud to the group.

I will bring a box and collect our collective wisdom so that we have something to add to and bring to discussions to share into the future.

Sound fun? I hope so!

Date: Thursday, Nov. 22, 2012 (4th Thursday of every month!)
Time: 6:30 pm to 9:00 pm
Place: Camas Books, 2590 Quadra St., Victoria, BC

October 101 discussion

We will be discussing Metamour relationships at our next monthly Poly 101 at Camas Books!

Time: 6:30 pm to 9:30 pm
Place: Camas Books, Victoria, British Columbia

Having more than one partner can be pretty great, but how do you relate to your partner's other partner? What if you don't like them? What if your partner doesn't like YOUR other partner? Do you all have to spend time together? 

We will discuss one of the most important poly relationships there is: metamour (from "meta" + "amour") relationships. No matter how much poly is like any other kind of relationship, it's the fact that we relate to our partner's other partners that makes poly unique, and potentially rewarding.

**Please note that Camas has moved down the block to their new location at 2620 Quadra Street.
It's free to attend a Poly 101 discussion, but please consider bringing a donation to Camas for the generous use of the space.

September Poly 101 discussion!

Building a poly household or intentional community. 

This month's topic centres around the logistics, emotions and communication needed to create a poly home with more than one partner (not to mention kids, pets and overnight guests)! 

As always, anyone is free to attend the discussion as long as you're respectful and speak and listen with an open mind. Camas provides the meeting space free of charge, but those of us who attend regularly like to show our appreciation for this by donating a few dollars to Camas. You may bring snacks to the meeting if you like.

Where:  Camas Books and Infoshop, corner of King and Quadra St., Victoria, BC

When: 6:30 pm to 9:30 pm, Thursday, September 27th, 2012

*VP101 discussions are the 4th Thursday of every month unless otherwise posted!  

Replace your jealousy with comperson..

This bit about how to learn to replace jealousy with comperson from an article by Deborah Anapol in Psychology Today really seemed worth posting on here:

"However, since most of us have been raised with an expectation of jealousy, compersion is often an alien concept. Learning theory tells us that it's always easier to replace one habit with another than to just eliminate the first one. If you can't imagine feeling compersion instead of jealousy, you can try the following experiment the next time you feel jealous. Instead of focusing on your own discomfort and fears, try putting your attention on your partner. Think of the happiness, turn on and pleasure your partner may be experiencing and how your partner's good feelings will eventually be passed on to you.

Just having a concept that acknowledges that you have an alternative to feeling jealous can go a long way toward transforming jealousy."