tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13527350348458581922024-03-05T01:45:40.664-08:00Victoria Poly 101Archive of the Victoria, BC, Canada, discussion group.KChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09169801807616256271noreply@blogger.comBlogger149125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1352735034845858192.post-78162354786832489192016-06-05T14:10:00.004-07:002016-06-05T14:10:55.662-07:00Blog ArchiveThis blog is the archive of Victoria Poly 101. For current discussions and events for this group, please see the <a href="https://www.facebook.com/Victoria-Poly-101-118495178257698/?fref=ts">Victoria Poly 101 Facebook page</a> or write to the facilitators of Victoria Poly 101 at victoriapoly101@gmail.com.<div>
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KChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09169801807616256271noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1352735034845858192.post-71683699041384378572014-09-09T10:02:00.000-07:002014-09-09T10:02:12.738-07:00September discussion: Poly and personal challengesWhile polyamory can be a big factor in our relationships and our lives, many if not most of us also face other kinds of personal challenges in the form of chronic illness, disability, or have partners and family members dealing with these. What is the impact of our personal challenges on our poly relationships, is it even possible to practice poly with such challenges, and if so, what's to consider? Can poly help in coping with our challenges, and in what ways? See you this month for a discussion about a perhaps difficult but very important topic, both for those of us who face personal challenges and those of us who wish to provide support to our partners and friends.<br />
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Place: Camas Books on Quadra, Victoria, BC, Canada<br />
Time: 7 pm to 9 pm<br />
Date: September 25, 2014<br />
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<br />KChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09169801807616256271noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1352735034845858192.post-65123674847535236602014-07-08T09:32:00.003-07:002014-07-08T09:32:33.219-07:00July Poly 101 discussion: Open question nightJuly 24, 2014 will be open question night at Victoria Poly 101. Got things you've been wondering about polyamory? Ever wondered how others deal with jealousy? Want to know how to plan an event with more than one of your partners attending? Curious how people decide who gets to sleep where, and when? \<br />
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See you at Camas Books, Quadra Street (across from Fairway foods) at 7 pm to 9 pm on Thursday, July 24. Attendance is free, but donations to Camas are appreciated for the use of their space. See you there!KChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09169801807616256271noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1352735034845858192.post-70365802667281800882014-06-04T19:10:00.002-07:002014-06-04T19:12:28.687-07:00June 26th Poly 101: Poly compatibility and the communication we need to get there<span style="background-color: white; color: #141823; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13.63636302947998px; line-height: 16.290908813476563px;">Last month, we had a discussion about how to talk about poly to family, co-workers and friends. During that talk, we touched on more general ideas of communication and it gave me the idea to dedicate this month's 101 to a more in-depth discussion about the communication skills needed to negotiate a good poly relationsh</span><span class="text_exposed_show" style="background-color: white; color: #141823; display: inline; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13.63636302947998px; line-height: 16.290908813476563px;">ip. Sounds easy, right? Just be honest! Well...<br /><br />When you think about it, there are quite a lot of differing views about what polyamory is, exactly, that are floating around out there. We've talked about different kinds of open relationships in other 101s, and so what I'd like to do this month is discuss how to communicate with someone who is poly, but maybe their poly isn't exactly the same as your poly. In an open relationship culture where things work best when we figure out our own boundaries and rules, being able to talk about all this stuff is key.<br /><br />Come prepared to think about what poly means to you, and how you can best communicate that to others. Also come prepared to hear and appreciate the differences in how we enjoy having relationships.</span><br />
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Polyamory has been a relationship choice for a long time, but it's only been recognized as a social movement in North America since the 1970s, and that was only in smaller pockets of communities, connected by like-minded individuals. Since the 1980s and the internet, however, polyamorous people have been connecting and<span class="text_exposed_hide">...</span><span class="text_exposed_show"> forming larger communities to the point where we're now in a third generation of poly people -- in their late teens and early '20s -- forming the largest-growing poly group yet.<br /><br /> While this is great news overall for those who want to see polyamory grow and blossom in our culture, it also poses new questions and challenges to those of us living in increasingly large poly communities. Questions like: "Who should I date?" and "Should our poly group host age-segregated events?" come up more and more frequently, while basic philosophies and even the language of polyamory (and its companion communities, such as the queer and lifestyle communities, to name only two) are evolving as younger people's views and different cultural issues make themselves felt in our lives. <br /><br /> This month we'll be discussing how age affects polyamory -- both for yourself, personally, and for the poly community as a whole. What aspects of the past are important to keep in mind, which are changing, and what's in store for the future of open, loving relationships? Most of all, how can poly people of all ages support each other in the years to come, particularly in preparing for "Polyamory, the Next and Future Generations?" <br /><br /> Kiki will be facilitating the April discussion.<br /><br /> Below are two articles on age and poly that you might find interesting background reading:<br /><br /><a href="http://www.lovemore.com/poly/the-influx-of-young-people-identifying-as-polyamorous/" rel="nofollow nofollow" target="_blank"><span>http://www.lovemore.com/</span><wbr></wbr><span class="word_break"></span><span>poly/</span><wbr></wbr><span class="word_break"></span><span>the-influx-of-young-people-</span><wbr></wbr><span class="word_break"></span><span>identifying-as-polyamorous</span><wbr></wbr><span class="word_break"></span>/</a><br /><br /><a href="http://freaksexual.wordpress.com/2009/05/06/age-and-polyamory-organizing/" rel="nofollow nofollow" target="_blank"><span>http://</span><wbr></wbr><span class="word_break"></span><span>freaksexual.wordpress.com/</span><wbr></wbr><span class="word_break"></span><span>2009/05/06/</span><wbr></wbr><span class="word_break"></span><span>age-and-polyamory-organizin</span><wbr></wbr><span class="word_break"></span>g/</a></span></div>
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February 27th is the date; the discussion is from 7 pm to 9 pm, and often there is a bit of social time organized afterwards at the neighbouring swimming pool and/or the pub. No cost for the discussion, though a donation to Camas for the use of their space is greatly appreciated.<br />
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And just so you know who we are, here's a photo of your two fearless VP101 facilitators speaking on a UVic panel with a friend..<br />
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<br />KChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09169801807616256271noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1352735034845858192.post-90879516858888348182014-01-18T13:54:00.001-08:002014-01-18T13:54:22.586-08:00A new poly workshop for couples coming this February to Victoria!An intensive weekend workshop consisting of couple counselling, coaching and group discussion activities will take place this February in Victoria, BC. Any couples interested in opening up their relationships for the first time are encouraged to register!<br />
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<br />KChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09169801807616256271noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1352735034845858192.post-76832750499676735942014-01-18T13:51:00.002-08:002014-01-18T13:51:45.425-08:00January Poly 101 discussion: workshop on attachment styles in polyThis month's Victoria Poly 101 discussion is a workshop. Special guest speaker: Dr. Nichole Fairbrother with assistance from Cora Bilsker. Offering a workshop/presentation on polyamory and attachment styles.<br />
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Date: Thursday, January 23<br />
Place: Camas Books, Victoria, BC, Canada<br />
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Please arrive on time for this workshop!KChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09169801807616256271noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1352735034845858192.post-4776729853707709582013-11-05T10:14:00.000-08:002013-11-05T10:14:17.428-08:00November Poly 101 discussion: expectations in polyamoryNovember 28th is the date for our last Poly 101 discussion of 2013 at Camas Books on Quadra, 7 pm to 9 pm! If you want to talk about managing poly expectations, this is the discussion for you! We'll also have time to ask and answer basic poly questions, and we'll talk about our December social event (in lieu of a discussion next month).<br />
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KChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09169801807616256271noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1352735034845858192.post-71185234903278405072013-09-09T15:32:00.003-07:002013-09-09T15:32:52.429-07:00September monthly discussion: Safer Sex Agreements in Poly Relationships<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 16px;">Safer sex is important for everyone to consider, but in poly relationships, deciding how to structure agreements, what to include and who to include can be challenging. This month's discussion will focus on how to create and maintain safer sex agreements in poly relationships. You do not have to be over 19 to attend this discussion, but if you're under 16, I ask that you either bring a parent/guardian with you, or their written permission.</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 17px;">I'll provide a brief introduction to Poly 101 and Camas, and then we'll look at the posted topic. If you have a question about polyamory that's not related to the topic, we may have time for it at the end of the discussion. I'll provide a question jar for you in case we have a lot of them.</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 17px;" /><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 17px;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 17px;">Around 8:30, I'll wrap up the discussion and we can take a look at any outstanding poly questions.</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 17px;" /><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 17px;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 17px;">At 9 pm, I'll do announcements about upcoming events, and then it's possible that some of us will go out for further discussion and social time at the local restaurant or the local swimming pool. </span><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 17px;" /><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 17px;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 17px;">I look forward to meeting you all at Poly 101!</span>KChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09169801807616256271noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1352735034845858192.post-16661755510086317092013-07-30T10:06:00.001-07:002013-07-30T10:06:06.988-07:00August Victoria Poly 101 discussion: Navigating Poly Pitfalls<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 16px;">Poly boundaries: what's the difference between uncomfortable and dangerous? What are some red flags to be on the lookout for? How do you keep yourself safe, physically and emotionally, and still be open?</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 16px;" /><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 16px;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 16px;">Sometimes when you're designing your relationship trip without a traditional roadmap, it can be hard to spot the sinkholes. This month we'll discuss some of the pitfalls of being open in a mostly-closed world and how to safely make your way to happy and loving poly living.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: lucida grande, tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;"><span style="line-height: 16px;">Place: Camas Books, 2620 Quadra, Victoria, BC</span></span><br />
<span style="color: #333333; font-family: lucida grande, tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;"><span style="line-height: 16px;">Time: 7 pm to 9 pm</span></span><br />
<span style="color: #333333; font-family: lucida grande, tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;"><span style="line-height: 16px;">Cost: free of charge, optional donation to Camas appreciated for use of the space</span></span>KChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09169801807616256271noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1352735034845858192.post-60574198778063884132013-07-08T12:47:00.005-07:002013-07-08T12:47:57.395-07:00July Poly 101 discussion cancelled, but we're having a BBQ instead, folks!<span class="userContent" data-ft="{"tn":"K"}">July Victoria Poly 101 discussion is cancelled due to summer! VP101 BBQ will be July 20th! Write victoriapoly101@gmail.com for details if you wish to attend, as this will be at a private residence and space is limited.</span>KChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09169801807616256271noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1352735034845858192.post-16926107806281645852013-05-08T09:59:00.001-07:002013-05-08T09:59:28.294-07:00May discussion The next Victoria Poly 101 discussion will be a bit more casual, with an open-topic format and a picnic-style potluck. Weather permitting, folks may go outside, so try not to be late!<br />
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Date: May 23, 2013<br />
Place: Camas Books on Quadra (across from Fairway)<br />
Time: 7 pm to 9 pm<br />
Cost: free, but donations for the use of space at Camas are greatly appreciated<br />
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*Kiki will be away this month, so Brad will be hosting this discussion.KChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09169801807616256271noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1352735034845858192.post-41853655765776977522013-04-09T09:27:00.001-07:002013-04-09T09:27:44.434-07:00Monthly discussion -- The Ethics and Etiquette of Poly<br />
We often refer to polyamory as "ethical non-monogamy" and many of us began learning about poly from "The Ethical Slut" by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy. Many of us choose polyamory because it aligns with our own system of ethics and beliefs, but often, there are differences of opinion about what constitutes poly ethics and also how this relates to "poly etiquette" -- the habits and behaviours that help poly go smoothly.<br />
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Join us at Camas for some great discussion!<br />
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A reminder: doors will be shut at 7:30 pm, so please be on time.<br />
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Camas Books<br />
Time: 7:00 pm - 9:00 pm<br />
Cost: donation to Camas<br />
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Contact: Kiki Christie, victoriapoly101@gmail.com<br />
KChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09169801807616256271noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1352735034845858192.post-27461381566330000572013-03-22T09:34:00.000-07:002013-03-22T09:34:08.915-07:00Get your tickets for POLYCON, Vancouver, 2013!<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Hey everyone, Canada's FIRST poly conference will be taking place in Vancouver, BC, on May 31-June 2, 2013! It's sponsored by the Canadian Polyamory Advocacy Association, and will feature workshops, events and vendors from poly communities across Canada -- don't miss it!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Info. and registration can be found on the <a href="http://polyadvocacy.ca/polycon">CPAA website.</a></span>KChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09169801807616256271noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1352735034845858192.post-19068677936539742292013-03-15T14:43:00.002-07:002013-03-15T14:43:31.318-07:00March Victoria Poly 101: Poly time management<br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Date: Thursday, March 28th</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Place: Camas (Quadra street, across from Fairway, just south of Hillside)</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Time: 7 pm to 9 pm</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Topic: Poly time management</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Polyamory takes so much time!! We hear this from non-poly people, and from poly people, too. Guess what? Having more than one partner DOES take more time, and energy, and a lot of careful organization. So how do we do it? Come discuss how to manage your poly time and loves in an effective, respectful and compassionate way.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">As always, donations to Camas are appreciated for the use of their wonderful space.</span><br />
KChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09169801807616256271noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1352735034845858192.post-57681005931906889892013-02-04T17:42:00.001-08:002013-02-04T18:52:07.651-08:00February Poly 101 discussion<br />
This month's topic, as promised, is "Dealing with Jealousy in Poly Relationships." <br />
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Jealousy is complicated, problematic, scary, and often useful. Many people say they don't experience it, but even if they don't experience any of the emotions associated with jealousy (like envy, feeling left out, possessiveness or insecurity, to name a few... ) they will probably have to deal with their partners' jealousy at some point in their poly lives.<br />
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Come discuss jealousy and how it impacts your poly life.<br />
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Date: February 28th <b><i>(always the 4th Thursday of the month!)</i></b><br />
Place: Camas Books, 2620 Quadra Street<br />
Victoria, BC, Canada<br />
Time: 7 pm to 9 pm<br />
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Anyone who wishes to learn about polyamory is welcome. Respect for the privacy and opinions of others is mandatory.<br />
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As usual, Camas is hosting us for free, so please consider bringing a small donation for their kindness.KChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09169801807616256271noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1352735034845858192.post-54166186704193588662013-01-02T15:05:00.001-08:002013-01-02T15:05:27.945-08:00January Victoria Poly 101January 24th is the next Poly 101 discussion at Camas Books, 2620 Quadra Street, Victoria, BC.<br />
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Please note that we have a new start time of 7:00 pm, which I hope will make it easier for people to get there from work or class. <br />
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Please bring a donation, if you can, to Camas for their support in letting us meet every 4th Thursday of the month.<br />
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 16px;"><b>Talking about being polyamorous: challenges, stereotypes, roadblocks, and resources.</b></span><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 16px;" /><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 16px;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 16px;">Do you struggle to explain polyamory to your friends, family or potential dating partners? Have you ever had to overcome feelings of guilt or discomfort related to stereotypes about having more than one partner? How much information is appropriate to share with other people?</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 16px;" /><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 16px;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 16px;">Come share some ideas for how to talk about polyamory to people who might not know what poly is, or how important it is in your life.</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 16px;" /><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 16px;" />KChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09169801807616256271noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1352735034845858192.post-10549065643905602782012-12-12T09:37:00.003-08:002012-12-12T09:37:23.866-08:00Victoria Poly Holiday Party!<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; line-height: 17px;">December 23rd is the Victoria Poly Holiday party at the Ledge Lounge (above the Bedford Hotel in downtown Victoria). Admission is $2 for a ticket; there will be a cash bar and full menu at The Ledge for the party (it's a private party, so please let us know if you want to come by emailing victoriapoly101@gmail.com).</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; line-height: 17px;" /><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; line-height: 17px;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; line-height: 17px;">Party starts at 5 pm (to 9:30 pm)! Your ticket enters you in a draw for a cool poly book!</span></span>KChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09169801807616256271noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1352735034845858192.post-3793651315248851432012-11-05T09:46:00.002-08:002012-11-05T09:46:57.617-08:00November Poly 101 discussionLet's make a poly time capsule!<br />
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 16px;">This month, the last Poly 101 before our holiday break (stay tuned for announcement of the December Poly party!) I wanted to tap into our collective creative energies to produce a fun and informative body of Victoria poly wisdom. :)</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 16px;" /><br style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 16px;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 16px;">At Poly 101, we get asked a lot of questions about poly resources or literature, and although there is a small lexicon of poly books, blogs and materials out there, many poly resources are, I find, found within the community its</span><br />
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elf.<br /><br />Therefore, I propose we put together a Victoria Poly 101 collection of writing, art or other materials that in some way reflects our own personal poly wisdom (even if it's just questions at this point). In other words, I ask you to bring something that you think would be useful or fun to share with the whole community that you wrote, created or otherwise compiled.<br /><br />If you don't write or craft anything, that's okay too! You can certainly come to listen and share your thoughts, or perhaps bring an excerpt of some poly writing you found online or in a book that really moves you, and read it aloud to the group.<br /><br />I will bring a box and collect our collective wisdom so that we have something to add to and bring to discussions to share into the future.<br /><br />Sound fun? I hope so!</div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: lucida grande, tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;"><span style="line-height: 16px;">Date: Thursday, Nov. 22, 2012 (4th Thursday of every month!)</span></span><br />
<span style="color: #333333; font-family: lucida grande, tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;"><span style="line-height: 16px;">Time: 6:30 pm to 9:00 pm</span></span><br />
<span style="color: #333333; font-family: lucida grande, tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;"><span style="line-height: 16px;">Place: Camas Books, 2590 Quadra St., Victoria, BC</span></span>KChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09169801807616256271noreply@blogger.com0